Unlike many women, I tended towards “no” as my typical answer. I craved my space, especially as a teacher surrounded by 150 students daily. Time to refresh was critical for me, and to this day I don’t mind being a homebody who likes peace and quiet.
I probably missed out on opportunities going this safe route. As a stay-at-home mama I am growing in this area of saying “yes.” I need the interaction and new environments “yes” provides. I wake up anticipating the unique adventures I can have. Even if I end a day exhausted or drained, I lived fully.
This is especially important in my relationship with my husband. If my immediate response is “no,” instead of “why not,” we tend to drift apart. As new parents we need to be unified and emotionally filled up. The surprising thing is – if I say “yes,” then I have more fun, because my husband desires me and feels loved. I have loved my family more than myself.
Are you a “yes” or “no” girl? Do you find you’ve adapted because of work or marriage or kids?