I’m a mom who loves being a mom, and I am a woman who loves working.
I can’t get this quote out of my head. I keep mulling it over, because I stumbled on it during this season when it seems especially hard to reconcile the two.
This is part of my messiness right now, and I believe I’m not alone in the mess. There are about a million factors that contribute and tangle together – including family background, my mentors and peers, my children’s ages, my career choices, cultural expectations. It is complicated, and I’m just starting to unpack and unravel it.
Ever since I read Ruth Reichl’s book, For You Mom, Finally, I’ve been thinking about the gift the generation of women before us gave, so that working became an option. It made me realize that maybe there is some truth to the phrase, “desperate housewives.” In the same vein, I recently read this article by Shauna Niequist, “What My Mother Taught Me,” and I just keep mulling over this desire to work, a competing desire to be present in my role as a wife and mother, and the limited amount of time I have in a day.
Do you feel this way? Do you have women you talk with about it? Have you found a resolution to these two desires? This is really just a beginning point for me. I’d love to hear your thoughts.
quote from Shauna Niequist
photo credit: Sara Ackermann at The Influence Conference