I’m in a rut. Lately I’ve been in sweats more days than not. I love pulling together an outfit for church on Sundays. I’ve been culling my wardrode down to my favorite pieces, and I keep an eye out for trends and fall fashion. I genuinely like working on my style. I wish I wanted to get dressed, but the reality is the only people who see me are my kids and husband and fellow grocery shoppers. My black leggings, grey tee and sweatshirt are just so easy and cozy. And….I sound like the mom who gets selected for What Not to Wear, who has just let herself go and doesn’t even know it. “But the sweats are SO comfortable!” she says.
I really noticed the problem when I was packing for The Influence Conference and was having a great time pulling clothes out of my closet to create outfits. I had quickly created like 15 fun outfits, and I only needed 4 for the weekend. I have the clothes. Part of me thinks I need to “save” them or “protect” them from my kids, but really I should use them, right? I don’t have anything that is ultra pricy, so if something gets ruined it is replaceable. These days and months as a young mother, making an impression on my kids of who I am – that can’t be replaced. The question is: do I want to spend the time?
And there’s a disconnect here. I get my kids out of their pajamas and into a cute little outfit almost every day. I don’t mind dressing them for the day. I used to love getting dressed in fun outfits to teach, and then cozying in sweats on Saturday was a treat. There’s no point in creating a capsule wardrobe if you’re staying in your pajamas all day.So why does dressing myself now feel like a wasted effort? Here’s where this blog comes in…
I’m hoping if I start documenting some outfits and writing a little about style, positive feedback will develop and get me back in the habit of having fun getting dressed. And I don’t mean getting comments or likes – I just mean the positive feedback of mothering myself and then feeling how that affects my daily life at home and with the people I care most about – my kids and husband. Why do I think the way my husband and kids view me doesn’t matter, but a classroom full of students does? This is also an important, valuable job. So, I’m finding my footing in my closet again, and I’m inviting you in on the process. And if you have or do struggle with this too, I’d love to chat in the comments and have fun with this together!
To kick things off, I pulled out a gorgeous fashionABLE scarf to wear. I’ve been a little hesitant to wear it around the kids, because it is beautiful and has the quality of an heirloom, handmade piece. But after wearing it, I think it pairs perfectly with hard-wearing, everyday basics and is a great layer for fall. I especially love the muted neutral colors against my face. Plus, it washed well! Win.
I bought these black flats on sale in the spring and waited all summer to wear them. I knew the gold detailing would add texture to simple outfits, without any fussy messing around in the bathroom. (You should know I have very few hair/beauty skills, so a good accessory is worth its weight in gold.) This matte lipbalm is a little bright, but it makes all the neutral, tomboy pieces in my closet a little more youthful + fun. I only wear stud earrings, so these gold squares are perfect for everyday. I really love wearing them.
The leather fashionABLE clutch was the #1 thing I wanted to buy during The Influence Conference. It has been on my wish list for over a year. I finally pulled the trigger and bought one on the very last night of the conference. With the craziness of selling our house and buying another (more on that soon, promise), I hadn’t even pulled it out of the bag until today. Can’t wait to put it to good use, because I’ve seen how it just looks better and better with time.
// EARRINGS noonday collection
// SCARF + LEATHER CLUTCH livefashionABLE (with a discount code!)
//BLACK FLATS jcrew
Looking forward to posting a little more frequently! Anyone been in a wardrobe rut lately or felt a little lost with their style as a stay home or work from home parent? I’d love to hear!