How do you do date nights these days, friends?
Right now, Zach and I are shooting for maybe one date night out each month. If we can manage that, it feels like a win. On Friday nights, we meet Zach at the Y, so we can both workout while the kids are in the child care. Then the kids eat a dinner I packed, and we grab some carryout on our way home. We tuck them in bed, and call our carryout a date night too. On Saturday nights, I make homemade pizzas once the kids are in bed for another date night in. If I had to analyze, I’d say our date-nights-in are like half dates. They do the job, but it’s not quite the same as getting away together.
We’re trying to make nights out more of a priority, because there’s something magic about being away from the house and the possibility of hearing one of the babies fussing after bedtime (which happens often in our home). Quite honestly though, it takes planning, time, and cash to secure a consistent babysitter when you don’t have family nearby. We’ve let dates slide to the back burner quite a bit in the past year.
We were talking about this with friends last night, and one bit of advice from a couple two steps ahead of us in life has stuck with me. They were saying if they could go back to the early parenting years, one change they would make is to cut back elsewhere and pay for more babysitters to reconnect as a couple more often. I’m hoping Zach and I can do that in 2017. I’ve noticed a little time away from the kids, and suddenly I miss them and can’t wait to kiss their little faces (when 3 hours before I was so done with parenting). And I feel more like a team with Zach when he and I get a few chances to talk uninterrupted and remember how much we genuinely like one another, outside of the chaos of cheerio crumbs, trash disposal, and laundry piles.
When we do go out, we often like to go early – like at 5pm and get back at 8, because the babysitter handles bedtime and the kids are asleep. We kiss their snuggly heads and then it’s like a second date can start at home with a movie and popcorn. We’re not as fried as we normally are at the end of the day, which is a treat.
We had a date this past weekend to a local Italian restaurant, and I picked this pairing of navy with black. It feels quietly pretty and soft. It also helps that I wasn’t freezing cold, which is never good on a date.
Your turn…tell me about your date night routine (or lack of). I’d love to hear!